I think I mentioned that we now share a nanny with my sister-in-law and brother-in-law (see Ahhh Baba!). We have her Wed-Fri night and they have her for the weekend. Knowing what I know about the characters involved, I foresaw that this might become an issue. But I figured that the benefits outweighed the costs.
Now, however, the demands of the other party are infringing upon the agreed upon time we are paying for the help. I’d heard about Brazilians battling over nannies, but I never thought I might be involved in such an encounter.
Of course, I’ve chosen to engage Brazilian passive aggressive tactics in this scenario. But that’s not why I’m going to win this battle.
What I’ve learned in my mostly American life is this: The person who wants the deal the least has the upper hand. Always.
You see, I don’t NEED a nanny. I need her the night that I teach, and even then it is just so my husband isn’t pressured to rush home from work. The other nights are pure convenience. However, my sister-in-law, I kid you not, is unable to go a single hour without help. Seriously. No exaggeration. Not an hour.
So while I might learn something about business arrangements with my Brazilian relatives, she will learn something as well. Never show your cards.