As much fun as it is to offer an unsolicited opinion on the marriage of say, someone on a reality television show, it is not fun to think about doing this with someone I know. Sure, I’ve given advice in the past when asked, but it was most often ignored. This means either 1) my advice on other people’s marriages sucks or 2) people really don’t want your opinion, they just want to tell you their side and receive sympathy. So I can’t imagine how well it would go over if I (the foreigner) actively splattered marital advice over an unprepared and unwilling subject. Not well is what I am thinking.
I come from a polite society in which, outside of abuse and excessive drug use, we pretend things are just fine. Especially in marriages. Sure, the marital problems of others are discussed, but only in whispers, late at night in the back room. Unless, as mentioned, one or more members of the married couple has sought out attention on national television or is a movie star.
I think this must be a Brazilian thing. Since we’ve arrived, I’ve been privy to the plotting of at least four intervention on various subject including someone working too hard and the wrong name selection for a yet-to-be-born child. Most disturbing to me is not to have to participate in one of these interventions, but to be the subject of one. I’m certain that at some point… my time will come.