I’ve posted a couple comments on a fellow blogger’s post entitled The Nanny Culture and I know that a healthy debate exists on this topic. Sure, it’s awesome to have someone at your beck and call to help you with your kids. But I think my beef is 1) with parents who feel that the hired help replaces their responsibilities, and then I have to deal with their angry, resentful kids at the playground when one of the bad seeds bashes my daughter in the head with a rock (ok, hasn’t happened yet, but could) and 2) that you just can’t trust anyone fully when it comes to your kids. I actually called the police on one NYC nanny… that’s another (sad) story.
But yesterday, I saw something rather disturbing. I was at my daughter’s swimming school getting her dressed post-shower. She’s 3 years old. There was a nanny toweling off her charge post-shower. This girl must have been 11 years old.
I could be wrong, but I seem to remember that at that age, I was showering, drying and dressing myself. This girl appeared to be physically and mentally capable of all three, yet there was the nanny aiding the process. It was just too weird.
And it made me think… how do some of these kids function in the real world? Or do they just… not? Perhaps many never see the real world (by my definition).
I know my daughter, and she likes to be served. The few times that she is, when we leave her with our maid/part-time nanny, she takes full advantage. I know that if I do go back to work, and hire the staff I would require to feel secure in doing so, things could get out of control. It could be my daughter standing there, waiting to be toweled off and dressed, in her pre-teen and teen years.
So in a world where kids may be “over-served,” how do you convince yours that, as excellent as it appears, it’s not such a good idea?